Becoming a foster carer is a life-changing decision, and for many single people it can feel like an impossible one. But across the Vale of Glamorgan, more and more single carers are stepping forward and making a profound difference in children’s lives. Kay Wilson is one of them. After years of focusing on her career and thinking fostering wasn’t an option for her, she discovered that being single wasn’t a barrier at all—it was simply the beginning of a new chapter. Here, Kay shares her journey, the rewards, and what she’s learned so far as a single foster carer.
As a single carer, what inspired you to take the step into fostering on your own?
“I reached 53 with a stable career, no children, and space in my home. After speaking with a social worker while helping a friend with her kinship application, I realised fostering was possible for a single person. With encouragement and examples of other single carers, I felt confident to explore it. I registered my interest in August 2024, was approved in January 2025, and welcomed my first young person in May 2025.”
What has been the most rewarding part of fostering for you so far?
“Seeing my young person grow in confidence has been the most rewarding. He went from part-time school attendance to going full time and taking pride in his achievements. Watching him build positive relationships, enjoy new hobbies like golf, and celebrate his progress at home has been incredibly fulfilling.”
How do you balance fostering with your personal life and self-care as a single carer?
“My friends, neighbours, and family have adapted with me, supporting changes to my routine. Having a school-age child gives me time to myself during school hours, and I plan my activities around his needs. Because my support network is DBS-checked, I can occasionally take time out alone, which helps maintain balance.”
What kind of support has been most meaningful since you started fostering?
“The Pioneer foster carers have been invaluable – always available for advice and reassurance. Through them I’ve connected with a wider network of carers for chats, questions, and monthly meet-ups. The free training offered has also been hugely beneficial in helping me understand and meet the needs of children who’ve experienced trauma.”
What skills or strengths have you discovered in yourself?
“I’ve realised how calm and patient I can be, even in unexpected situations. I’ve learned the value of listening without judgement, and my confidence has grown through connecting with other carers. I now feel part of a supportive team working toward the same goal.”
What advice would you give to single people considering fostering?
“Don’t let being single put you off – fostering is absolutely possible and incredibly rewarding. Think realistically about your time, lifestyle, and what age group might fit best with your life. Reach out to the Vale of Glamorgan fostering team to find out more; you have nothing to lose and so much to gain.”
Looking ahead, what are your hopes for your fostering journey over the next year?
“I hope to keep learning, meet more foster carers, and gain experience with children of different ages so I can continue building my skills and knowledge.”
If Kay’s story has inspired you to consider fostering -whether you’re single, in a couple, working, or retired -we’d love to hear from you. Foster Wales Vale of Glamorgan is here to answer your questions and guide you through the process. Get in touch today and take the first step toward changing a young person’s life.
